Living Fully: Be Inside the Moments That Fill You
Ask people what it means to live life fully and most will describe something big: a trip, a milestone, the life they'll have once things calm down. Ask three coaches who think about it every day, and the answers get a lot smaller... and a lot more useful.
In this episode of Candid Coach Conversations, Kimberly Boyd, founder of Live Life Fully, sits down with certified Live Life Fully coaches Savannah Burke and Teresa Anderson to compare notes on the question Kimberly hears most about the company she named: what does living fully actually mean?
Three answers to the same question
Kimberly explains where the name came from. She was already living a life she wanted and enjoyed, and after a series of things, she realized she wanted to live even more fully. She didn't name the company Live Life Even More Fully, she jokes, because that's a really long name. But people still ask what it means, so she put the question to two of her coaches.
Savannah's answer is about others as much as herself: living for yourself, helping people, enjoying being with them, and showing them how to get what they want and grow in whatever area matters to them... business, life, family, pretty much anything.
Teresa's answer is shorter. "For me it's feeling alive. It's doing the things in my life that really genuinely make me feel alive. That's how I gauge living fully."
What coaching changed for each of them
Kimberly asks how coaching helped them live more fully. For Teresa, it made her aware of where she wasn't participating in her own life, and where her choices weren't serving the version of herself she hoped to become. Sometimes the fix was small, like habit stacking. Sometimes it was learning to plan from A to Z. And sometimes it was getting out of her own way: she'd been staring at the end result when all she really needed was the first five big moves. Kimberly shrinks it even further. What's one thing you can do?
Savannah came to coaching wanting more time with her family without giving up everything else she wanted to do. Her first session asked her how she wanted to show up for them. The answer became her three words: kind, confident, and compassionate. That's how she shows up for her family, and it's how she shows up for her clients. When her first coaching client hit goals halfway through their work together, Savannah knew she was practicing what she preached. "I knew I was where I needed to be."
Iced tea, a bedtime, and the beauty of the ordinary
Kimberly's own list starts somewhere unexpected. Living fully includes a bedtime. A morning routine. And a different level of gratitude for little things... like iced tea. Not all tea is alike, she insists. There's a small barbecue place in town she doesn't go to for the food. She goes for the tea, and when she asked what brand it was, nobody knew. It's whatever the machine makes. She asked if she could come look at the machine.
Then there's the woman at the Sonic down the road, probably in her sixties or seventies, who carries out orders in brutal heat with a smile so bright Kimberly gets giddy when she sees her working. On her last visit, a young man brought the order instead, and before Kimberly could be disappointed, he greeted her so warmly that she thought, there's another one. Savannah has her own version: the Walmart greeter whose hello makes the whole trip better.
Teresa puts words to what all of this has in common. "Making the ordinary beautiful." People tend to wait for the vacation, the celebration, or the milestone to feel special. Living fully, in her view, is being able to sit in the beauty of an ordinary lunch with someone you love and a really good glass of tea.
Be a dopamine drip
Those warm strangers point to something bigger: the people who expand you. Teresa describes them as the ones who let you exhale, smile, and feel joy almost automatically.
Savannah turns it toward Teresa. What she loves about being around her is how much they laugh, often about nothing in particular. She borrows a line from Dr. Amen about dripping dopamine instead of dumping it, and tells both of them they're a drip of dopamine for her. Kimberly promptly declares them the DDs.
Savannah also shares a statistic she wrote down the moment she heard it: sitting next to productive, innovative people raises your productivity by about 15%, while sitting with low-motivation people drags your energy down by 30%. "Who wants to go down by 30%?" she asks. She'd rather be the person who lifts everyone else up 15%... and sit next to people who do the same.
Kimberly adds an important clarification. Growth-oriented people don't need the same goals. One person can be writing a book while another plants trees. And it isn't about work, work, work, which she says sucks the life right out of you. It's about awareness, responsibility, and the energy in the room when everyone is working in comfortable silence on something that matters to them. Teresa notes that when you aren't paying attention to where you want to be, a low hum of guilt runs in the background... I should have done this, I should have done that. Rooms full of people who are growing pull you forward instead.
The lake weekend and the adult sleepover
Kimberly remembers a writing weekend at the lake, with coaches gathered around a dry-erase board on the back patio. Some came with a project. Some came only to be present. Fellow coach Bri Roberts had been stuck on a chapter of her motherhood course for a while, and somewhere in that energy, with the water nearby, it came unstuck. She asked to slip into another room and finished it.
Teresa was the one who came with no plan and built something on the board anyway. Looking back, she says, the way Kimberly broke ideas down that day gave her the beginning structure she later used to write The Table. She had been a poetry writer and had never written a book in story form, and that breakdown helped her shift gears. Savannah's review of the book: grab some Kleenex, and by the end you'll want to grab your armor.
Savannah describes what those gatherings feel like from the inside. She'll leave home for an afternoon meeting at Kimberly's and, by the end of the day, not want to leave. As adults, she says, we still have sleepovers. We just call them corporate meetings. Teresa has a better name for it: living life fully.
Boundaries, or opportunities
All of this depends on choosing who you spend your time with. Kimberly credits Bri with a question she uses often: who has access to you, and how much access are you willing to give? Savannah ties it to boundaries and accountability... not quitting on yourself or canceling on yourself. For anyone who bristles at the word boundaries, Kimberly offers a swap: call them opportunities. What opportunities can you give yourself? Savannah lands on the language of choice. I get to do this. I want to do this. I choose this. "Prioritize yourself because you matter just as much as everybody else."
Kimberly also returns to something Savannah said earlier: hope can be learned. If you want help with that, she says, pick a coach at llfully.com and book a free 20-minute clarity call. Do one with every coach if you want to.
Inside the moments that fill you
When Kimberly asks what they want to leave listeners with, Teresa says something that makes the other two ask her to repeat it.
"Living fully isn't about filling every moment. It's about actually being inside the moments that fill you."
Savannah isn't sure she can follow that, but she adds her own: live more fully in the moments, create the moments that bring you joy, and live as your authentic self.
About the Coaches
Savannah Burke is a certified Live Life Fully coach who spent years stepping over her own boundaries before she learned to protect her time. Her free resource and weekly newsletter are on the Resources tab at llfully.com. Learn more or book a complimentary strategy session with Savannah at llfully.com/Coach-SavannahBurke.
Teresa Anderson is a licensed therapist, a certified Live Life Fully coach, and the author of The Table, a book about transforming stories of pain into purpose, available in the Live Life Fully shop at llfully.com. Learn more or book a complimentary strategy session with Teresa at llfully.com/teresa-anderson.
A certified Live Life Fully coach can help you take the next step, together. Book your complimentary strategy session at llfully.com.
